Let’s be real: moving can make you feel like you are going to go crazy, specially if it is an overseas move to a new country. Boxes, schedules, lists, stuff, calls, coordinating, plans, purchases, sales, more stuff – it’s enough to sometimes make you want to curl up in bed instead of facing it all.
Despite the expected insanity, though, and the reality that perhaps after everything is over you might just want to sit down with a cold beverage and chill out for a few weeks, I still get questions like, “how do you hit the ground running when you move?”
The truth of the matter is that it can take time to adjust. It is not uncommon to be in a period of emotional transition for up to 12 months, if not longer after the relocation is complete. Friendships, routines, favorite spots — they all take time to evolve and develop, grow and strengthen.
So practice patience, both with yourself, the people around you, and with the new town you’re living in.
Sometimes it helps to simply have awareness around all of the things that are going to change. Before you move, take stock of the parts of your life that are most important to you, especially things that you might not be aware of. Are there routines that are particularly grounding in your life that you’ll want to try and reestablish once you’re moved? What roles do you fill in the community that you’d like to work on rebuilding in your new town? How can you get those very personal moments back into a groove post-move?
Prepare mentally for shifts in your social life as well as any cultural differences you might come up against, not to mention any professional or personal changes that might be coming up. Research your new space and look for opportunities to engage before you’ve even arrived, particularly through online communities or forums.
Most important is to not lose touch with your personal interests and self-care strategies. The only thing you have complete control over are your own thoughts and actions, so stay focused on strengthening your self, engaging in your interests and hobbies, and staying connected to the activities which ground you and stay a part of your life no matter where you’re moving to.
The following guest blog post was contributed by Allegra Stein, The Relocation Coach, helps takes relocations from regrettable to revelatory, teaching you how to use geographic change as a way of learning more about who you are, how you think, and what you want out of life. You can find her at allegrastein.com and on twitter @allegrastein